Beliefs as a Womxn

Where do your beliefs as a woman come from? Are they actually yours? Are they true? •

Conditioning gives us the perception that these beliefs are TRUTHS. And that leads to you becoming the woman you SHOULD be, rather than the women you ARE.

Getting the body beautiful women SHOULD have. Speaking the way a lady SHOULD. Actions strong women SHOULD take.

But none of these are truths. Your only “truth” is the one that resonates deep within you, at your core. But most of the time, you keep those desires and “truths” hidden and suppressed in fear of judgment or disconnection from the world around you.

I have done this for years. I’ve spent so much time trying to conform to what I believe the world expects of me, as a woman. I’ve spent countless hours trying to have the body of a “beautiful woman”. I try not to swear too much because that’s not how a “lady” would speak. I beat myself up everytime I just need a day to relax and reset, because that’s not how a “strong, driven woman” would act.

Where did these beliefs come from? They certainly aren’t mine. So why I am trying so hard to conform to the beliefs of others? So far, they haven’t gotten me anywhere but into a downward mental spiral of overthinking, guilt, and shame.

What if you threw those beliefs, the ones that aren’t yours, to the wayside and started being, speaking, acting in a way that’s actually true for you? What could be possible?

When are you going to start breaking free and showing up fully-expressed instead of showing up in the way that you SHOULD? •


Do these words resonate with you? Can you already see where you’re holding back?

Interested in discovering the 3 main blocks keeping you from living your life, fully-expressed? Use the link in my bio to talk to me about it. You will leave knowing EXACTLY why you are holding back and exactly what to shift.

Intimacy in COVID

How can we have more intimacy during a time when we are physically separated from all of humanity? :
Intimacy starts with you. Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship in your life.
How often are you giving her love and attention?
How often do you tell her how fabulous she is?
How often do you look in the mirror and think, “damn, that’s one sexy bitch”?
How often do you treat her to that piece of pizza or a nap?
How often do you self-pleasure?
These are all ways to grow your intimacy and connection with yourself TODAY.
Why wait?
Interested in discovering your 3 main blocks keeping you from living your most turned-on life today? Use the link in my bio to talk to me about it.


What if?

What if we started living in alignment with what we really want?

What if we started doing things every day simply because they bring us joy?

What if we started saying the things that are on our mind and in our hearts instead of taking time to filter or say what we think people want to hear?

What if we started believing we are worthy of love from ourselves and from others?

What if we started sharing our pain with people around us?

What if we started sharing our joy with others?

What if we started saying “NO” to everything that doesn’t feel like a HELL YES?

What if we started saying “YES” to all the things that we crave, rather than all the things society tells us we SHOULD want.

What if we started throwing the SHOULDS out the window?

What if we started breaking free from all the beliefs and fears that don’t belong to us?

What if we burned it all to the ground?

What could be possible?

If you’re ready to break free from all the bullshit and the SHOULDS, DM me. Let’s burn it down together. Let’s break free together.


Happy Monday! How do you start your week?
For me, there’s nothing like a high-energy, sexy dance session. Yes, I blast music, and dance my ass off. It gets me excited and energized for the week, while simultaneously getting me connected to my body.
It’s so important to do little things for ourselves each day. Things that get us excited, activities that make us feel SEXY and FREE.
What’s your favorite way to connect to your sexual feminine energy?
Do you have a Monday morning ritual? Let me know in the comments below!
And if you’re struggling to come up with ideas for how you can better connect to your sexual inner goddess, let’s chat about it. Link in bio for a free 20 min intimacy & desire strategy call. You’ll leave knowing exactly what’s getting in the way of you being able to connect with that part of yourself.

Unapologetically Me

I’ve always felt like a bit of an outcast. Especially when it came to my desires sexually. I was always the “crazy, wild” one.
Some people loved me because I encouraged them to let their hair down and have a good time. Other people shamed me for not being a “lady” or not following their rules of what it meant to be a woman.
Well I’m sick of it. The rules are bullshit. I’m done wondering if I’d have more friends if I was more polite, more conservative, less bold, less wild.
So here I am. Just Kayla.
I am wild.
I am bold.
I am promiscuous.
I am beautiful.
I am a rule breaker.
I am sexual.
I am free.
I am uninhibited.
I am powerful.
I am confident.
I am perfect.
I am me.
Who are you?
Maybe you don’t know. And that’s OKAY.
Want to uncover what’s been hiding for years? Want to find out what’s on the other side of your truest, most unapologetic self? DM me and let’s talk about it.


Right now, I’m getting a lot of questions from women about intimacy while they’re in quarantine… “Intimacy doesn’t seem relevant when I’m isolated from the world and I have no one to be intimate with.”

I totally get it. It seems weird to talk about intimacy if you have no one to be intimate with, but let me tell you a little secret… you DO have someone to be intimate with… YOURSELF. Despite what most of us believe or have been taught, intimacy starts with you.

What are you doing to create love, pleasure and intimacy in your most important relationship? Your relationship with yourself. The one that will consistently be there… THAT relationship needs to be nurtured just as much, if not more than your relationship with others.

A really great way to practice loving yourself, is with self-pleasure.

Maybe you light some candles, get some coconut oil, put on your favorite sexy playlist and just love every inch of your own body.

Maybe you put on some lingerie and watch yourself in the mirror.

Maybe you grab your favorite vibrator or toy.

Maybe you watch porn.

Maybe you do all of the above.

There is no “right” way to self-pleasure. Do whatever makes YOU feel like the sexy, yummy goddess that you are. Do whatever brings YOU pleasure.

And if it feels awkward to do any of those things, that’s okay too. Most of us are not taught how to love ourselves, and so it can feel unnatural or weird.

If you’re nervous, I encourage you to give it a try anyway. See how you feel. The more you can be open to exploring your body in new and different ways, the easier it will get and the more natural it will feel.

You are worthy of love and pleasure. First and foremost from yourself, but also from others.

Take advantage of this time and be intentional about nurturing your relationship with yourself. Intimacy starts with YOU.

Tell me in the comments, how does self-pleasure fit into your life?

And if it’s something you struggle with, DM me and we’ll figure out what’s getting in the way of you having that sexy, fun and intimate relationship with yourself.


Sometimes I take life too seriously. Idk about you, but it’s SO easy for me to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of working and all the things I “should” be doing, that I forget to just take a moment and enjoy life.

We often forget to embrace our inner child-like and playful energy! But when we do, it makes life SO 👏🏻 MUCH 👏🏻 BETTER 👏🏻.

Every day you give yourself permission to get silly and just do something purely for fun, I promise, it’ll be a better day than if you don’t.

Play. Laugh. Connect. Breathe. Be present.

The rest of the busyness we create in our lives can fucking wait. There’s no such thing as an email emergency 🚨.

When was the last time you threw yourself a dance party? 💃🏻

When was the last time you frolicked around in the rain? 🌧

When was the last time you skipped through the park? 🍃

I encourage you to take some time for yourself today — do something silly and fun! Just because you can.

Tell me how you’re cultivating your inner child today in the comments! And send me a DM if you need ideas 💡⚡️


Sometimes being a goddess doesn’t always mean being full of confidence, love and light. Sometimes it means being dark, tense, angry, bitchy, scratchy, and emotional.

This weekend, I was full of rage. And I was also a POWERFUL goddess.

It’s important to love and embrace that anger and sadness that bubbles up inside of you.

Being fully-expressed isn’t always about joy and silliness. The wild woman in you wants to RAGE and CRY, too.

Feel the darkness. Feel the rage. 🌑🔥

Don’t shut her out. Embrace her. Get to know her deeply. She is a part of you. Feel her. Express her.


Lets talk about desire.

We as women have this belief that we don’t deserve pleasure. Or we don’t deserve to have everything we want.

If we actually ask for what we really want, we’ll be seen as “too much” or “high maintenance”.

This is bullshit.

We absolutely deserve to ask for what we want, but, without expectation.

You, and everyone else, also has the right to say “yes” or “no” in response to a desire. But just because we might be met with a “no”, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t ask.

It is your right to ask. To stand for what it is you desire. Because you absolutely are worthy of it all.

Desires are powerful. So lean in. Look inside yourself to see what’s there. Do you have desires you’ve been keeping inside that want to be set free? Give those desires the space to be seen and heard. Give yourself permission to want those things.

You are a goddess and deserve to have it all🔥

📸: @kanaciamichelle

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